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Three Ways to Make Stress Your Ally

The impact of stress tends to follow an “Inverted U”: Some level is motivational and helpful however past a certain point, some folks experience the “deer in the headlights” and perceive the situation as being…

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Can You Self-Distance?

“Self-distancing” is the ability to stand outside one’s self and gain perspective, to in essence take a psychological “time-out”. It’s your mother’s “count to 10…

This is What I Do

How do you motivate yourself? How do you keep yourself going when you are tired, fatigued, falling behind? How do you tap into your best…

To Live Better, Think Better

In many, many ways the Quality of our Lives is directly connected to the Quality of our Thoughts. Fill your mind with fears, doubts, anger,…

Preparing to Be Calm

Curbing my “intensity” has long been one of my personal/professionally growth goals and it is SO easy to fall for the “argue for your weakness…

Five Sure Fire Ways to Make Yourself Unhappy

1. Put Your Sense of Self-Worth into the hands of others. Never, ever let others define you or set your goals or priorities. “My Sense…

9 Questions to Raise Your Self-Awareness

1) When you have free time, what do you want to do? What takes no motivation for you to want to do it? 2) What…

Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most

Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila Heen (Part 1) Difficult conversations are anything that someone does not…

Upgrade Your “Attributional Style”

Assume the Best, NOT the Worst! Upgrade Your “Attributional style” Stuff Happens! Phone calls don’t always get answered or promptly returned, things do get forgotten.…

Cover Ups: The Mother of More Mistakes

Learning from mistakes is a cliché; a phrase uttered repeatedly and with which we all nod our heads and intellectually agree… and then go out…

Hara Hachi Bu

When do you stop eating? What is your “cue”? Your internal or external signal? Many of us are on a “Sea/See” Food Diet: We see…

How We Respond to Adversity Can Create Self-Fulfilling Prophecies

How do you view setbacks? As learning opportunity or as failure? Do you view your capabilities as fixed, somewhat set at birth, essentially carved in…

Dyfal Donc a Dyr y Garreg

“Dyfal Donc a Dyr y Garreg” is a Welsh proverb that translates “Tapping persistently breaks the stone.” Persistence is firm, even obstinate, continuance in a…

Do You Know Where Your Energy Goes?

Pay attention to your Energy Levels throughout your day; track what consumes your energy and what people, thoughts, and activities power you up. Start with…

Beware Your Reflexive Response!

Always choose a positive AND effective response. Does your response improve the situation? Move you toward your goals? Life happens in the sum of small…

Declining Drama’s Distraction

Drama can be incredibly alluring, attracting our attention, pulling us in with its siren song.  The swirling emotions trigger our interest and emotions yet like…

2018 Checklist: Characteristics of Success v. Failure

Failure Checklist Sense of Entitlement Watch TV Every Day Live in Denial/Deliberate Ignorance Think education ends with graduation Drift, Dream, Doze Off Cultivate Resentments, Hold…

Forget New Year’s Resolutions

Better a small promise kept than a larger one broken. Most New Year’s Resolutions fail because they are lofty goals with insufficient foundation. If it…

Dysfunctional Habits: Trapped By Your Triggers

Knowing your triggers, your short fuses, is crucial to learning and substituting new behavior. If you are not aware of (and alert for) what triggers…

What Magnifies Your Spirit?

What lifts you? What thoughts leave a smile that lingers? What people make you light up when you see them? What experiences pull you up?…

No Excuses Happiness

What are your criteria to be happy? Everything in your life going the way you want? Never going to happen or if it does, don’t…

Leave Space Between Everything

Even in my 7th decade, I’m as task-directed, goal-focused, and achievement-oriented as they come. Yet with the passing of the years, I’ve learned to leave…

Are You a Stairs Person or an Elevator Person?

I was bounding up three flights of stairs the other day and my young son asked me why we weren’t taking the elevator like some…

Metta

Have you ever longed for “peace of mind”? For quiet contentment? To still the monkey chatter in your mind, to quiet your internal critic or…

Turning Adversity into Advantage

I am still humbled by how often I stumble, how frequently I fall short of my aspirations. Somehow I’d expected that as time passed, it…

Waste Your Spare Time = Derail Your Success

“I don’t have time” or “I couldn’t find the time” are some of the most common excuses for not moving forward. The truth is, we…