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Six Toxic Relationship Beliefs

“A good relationship should not have problems.” “Couples who are in love, who have a good relationship, do not fight.” “If my

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Never Compare Your Inside to Others’ Outside

When I was younger, I used to wonder when I’d finally make it to the “Other Side”, that land of milk and

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Can You Self-Distance?

“Self-distancing” is the ability to stand outside one’s self and gain perspective, to in essence take a psychological “time-out”. It’s your mother’s

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Shunning Inferior Pleasures

I will leave each reader to define for themselves what constitutes “inferior pleasures” for them; principles are simple, application can be complex.

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The Joys of Seeking Desirable Difficulty

Why would difficulty ever be desirable? Because in overcoming difficulty we grow stronger. Just as the athletic trains by lifting ever greater

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Are you Running on Default Mode?

Default mode is taking the easy way out, the path of least resistance, accepting the status quo without question or meaningful demur.

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Heart Like a River

Take a handful of salt and pour it into a drinking glass of water and the water becomes bitter, undrinkable. Pour the

determination

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This is What I Do

How do you motivate yourself? How do you keep yourself going when you are tired, fatigued, falling behind? How do you tap

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To Keep Love Fresh, Treat Your Lover Like a Guest

How to keep your love from going stale? How to keep your important relationships fresh and alive? Ever renewing and growing? One

think happy be happy

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To Live Better, Think Better

In many, many ways the Quality of our Lives is directly connected to the Quality of our Thoughts. Fill your mind with

make your own path

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Q&A on the Path to Happiness and Success (Part 2)

Early Career According to your blog, you purchased your first income-producing property in the early 1970s. What year in college were you

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Making Your Own Luck

Luck is the intersection of preparation and opportunity. Relentlessly increasing your skill sets (Preparation!) certainly increases the scope of the opportunities you