Finding My Best Self
Sometimes I lose my best self; find myself distracted and drifting off course. Usually it is because I get busy, then wake up to find…
The Hardest Thing
They say, “fish discover water last”. For example, we become so adapted that things disappear into the background and we lose awareness of them. Learning…
Sidestepping the Arrival Fallacy Trap
The Arrival Fallacy is when we finally achieve a desired goal; something we worked long and hard for and… Somehow, it is not all we…
How Well Do You Know You?
Write down three pivotal experiences in your life. Why were they pivotal? How have they impacted you? If not positive, how could they be re-framed? List…
Your Identity Drives Your Behavior
Who are you? How do you define yourself? How would you describe yourself? Do you like your answers? The words you choose, the associated mental…
Maybe it Wanted to Be Noticed
There is a children’s story, “There’s No Such Thing as a Dragon” about a little boy who finds a dragon on his bed. It’s small…
How to Build a Ship
“If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up the men to gather wood, divide the work and give orders. Instead, teach them…
The Belief That Sets the Course of Your Life
Self Belief: I am enough, I can do it, I have (or can find) what it takes. Where there is a will, there is a…
Who Is Your Jailer?
There is a cartoon of a prisoner in a cell; hands on the bars, rattling his cage, frantically, furiously, attempting to break free of his…
Three Pivotal Points of Personal Power
Lock Down Your Why To be effective you must be motivated, enthused and on mission every day. This requires that your life be aligned with…
Two Things Hyper Successful People do Regularly
Successful People are Voracious Seekers of Knowledge “It’s hard for me to understand why [getting an MBA] is a better use of time and money…
Systems Thinking and Critical Thinking Skills: Two Must Have Abilities to Deal With an Ever Increasingly Complex World
Embrace Systems Thinking: Solve the Problem, Fix/Improve the System that allowed it to happen “All Systems are perfectly aligned to deliver the results they do.” Systems…
The Most Destructive Habit You Can Possibly Have…That You MUST Stop Right NOW
The most destructive habit you can possibly have is to allow negativity in your life for it has the potential to undermine so many other…
Critical Thinking: What is it?
Critical Thinking: An objective analysis/evaluation of an issue/situation in order to form a judgment. Critical Thinking should come BEFORE a judgment; all too often judgment come…
Choosing to Find Peace Today
The mind, the ego, the subconscious often have multiple reasons why peace must be just around the corner. Or, why it is difficult/impossible because of…
Who Runs Your Life?
Are you really free if you are bound by habits/desires you fail to muster the willpower to shake? Habits are a fixed way of thinking,…
Seven Deadly Relationship Sins: Elephant Journal
I do not often run material of others, but this is SO good I felt compelled to share; link to source at end. Deceit. Lying and…
CRITICAL THINKING SKILLS AND THE CYCLE OF INQUIRY
“There is very little difference between people but that little difference makes a big difference.” – W. Clement Stone One little difference that makes a big…
Systems and Sisyphus
Do you think in terms of Systems? That many situations involve multiple players making multiple moves over time? Always focus First on Removing Restraining Forces…
Resilience 101 “Consciously Building Your Coping Skills Before Life Tests You”
In life, it is inevitable that we will have valleys through which we must walk, times of despair, defeat and discouragement. These journeys will be…
Troubles Will Come, Two Ways to Build Resilience in Advance
Consciously Build Your Self Confidence/Self Esteem Get your inner voice fully on your side, not as a flattering sycophant but as a coach who lovingly…
What mistakes are you currently making today and what are you going to do about them?
It is astounding how much of our lives we spend on auto-pilot, unthinkingly performing the same, almost ritualistic behaviors. Reflexively feeling the same emotions because…
Claiming Your Golden Shadow
In Jung’s psychology, the “shadow” refers to an unconscious aspect of the personality, everything of which a person is not fully conscious, i.e. the shadow…
Don’t Be Your Own Biggest Problem: Three Ways to Freedom
I decided a long time ago that life holds enough challenges without the handicap of me not being fully on board, fully committed to loving…
Three Common Traps Successful Folk Avoid
Playing without Goal Posts “If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up someplace else.” – Yogi Berra Most folks go the same…
The Many Possible Riches of a Poor Memory
The first thing to understand is that far from being akin to a marriage of video recorder and a computer data bank, our observations tend…