Hold Your Sense of Self Loosely
By “hold your sense of self loosely” I do not mean you are easily swayed by the prevailing winds or that you do not have…
Guesthouse Emotions
Never give the Master Bedroom to emotions that belong in the Guest House (at best!). Listen, we all have bad days, moods, fits, impulses to…
The One Thing You Can’t Teach
Wanting. Wanting is the most difficult thing to teach. Wanting to grow, wanting to be your best, wanting to learn, wanting to improve. That burning…
Three Steps and More on How to Be a Better Human
First, you have to WANT to be better. Really, really, really want to because it’s a process, a long process with no end to the…
Interoceptive Awareness, Intuition, Introspection: Ruminations
Interoceptive awareness, at its most basic level, is an awareness of physical sensations within such as fast heartbeat, heavy breathing, hunger, and fullness. Some expand…
Expectancy Effect: Make it Your Ally, Not Your Foe
The “Expectancy Effect” is the phenomenon by which folk’s perceptions and behavior change as a result of their or others prior beliefs i.e. expectations. It…
Seeking Failure
Why would anyone seek failure? Well, absent situations with catastrophic consequences (packing your parachute?), failure often contains valuable feedback, lessons that can form the foundation…
A Leader’s Highest Leverage Point
Yes, a leader must show the way, articulate the vision, light the fire and yet… all that eventually is little use if a leader does…
The ABC’s of Success
Access your Best Self. This requires taking the time to KNOW yourself, developing both your EQ (emotional intelligence) and wisely exploring a wide range of…
What’s The Agenda?
Life is full of distractions, side roads, and dead ends; drama that may grab our attention but are not aligned with our purpose, our mission,…
The Results in Your Life Reflect Your Level of Awareness
As your awareness grows, so too does your ability to direct your thoughts, to master your mind, align your emotions with your goals and values…
If This Isn’t in Your Mental Toolbox, You Are Handicapped
I’m a big believer that solid, steady progress wins most races over the long haul and that the mastery of the basics, day in and…
Positive Reappraisal: Far More Than Optimism
While re-framing, optimism, and positivity all are aspects of positive reappraisal, at its heart positive reappraisal is much more. Properly done, positive reappraisal is a…
First Rule of Project Management
Create a Timeline! Far more than just a final deadline, a timeline lays out, in sequential order, a schedule of all the events AND the…
Three Steps to Spring Clean Your Brain
Step One: Take Inventory Observe how you spend your time AND your energy. Who and What lifts you? Who and What drains you? What do…
Does Happiness Take Work?
The short answer is: “Yes, sometimes, even often.” Why? Because our impulses, our intuitions, our social conditioning around what will make us happy are all…
W.W.W.
W.W.W. stands for “Why am I doing this?” “Why now?” “What else could I be doing?” W.W.W is an important acronym to help you prioritize…
A Thought-Provoking Question
A Team Member asked me the other day what they needed to do to get promoted. In the moment, I couldn’t come up with anything…
Beware the Thomas Becket Pitfall
In any organization, there is a natural desire to please one’s boss. In general, a good, even excellent thing. However, when rules are cast aside,…
How Well Do You Know You?
When was the last time you did a “Self-Assessment”? Put yourself through an annual Mental/Spiritual Health exam? It can start with thinking about your thinking:…
Happiness Takes Work
No matter what our life circumstances, there are things for which to be grateful, to be thankful. Think not? Imagine seriously for a moment all…
Two Lies Leaders Should Never Tell Themselves
Lie #1: “I’ve unique stress others don’t so understandable if I…” Even if the first part of the statement is true, the second is definitely…
The First Step
I want to live a good life and I also want to live the good life and while they are definitely related, there is a…
The Best Tool in Your Mental Skills Toolbox… that no one talks about
Being “controlling” has a negative vibe these days and appropriately so in the context of a personal relationship. As a result, the concept of “control”…
The World is a Giant Mirror
The world is a giant mirror, reflecting back the attitudes, energy, and behaviors you choose to broadcast. Don’t like what you see? Change what you…
To Live your Greatest Life, the Most Important Trait is…
Courage. The willingness to enter the cave you fear, to do the hard thing first, now, not later. To step, no, RUN out of your…