Self-Made v. Self-Sculpted
I am NOT a self-made man. Anyone with an ounce of humility and self-awareness knows, appreciates, and is deeply grateful for the help they have…
The Incredible Power of Humility
Our pride, Our stubbornness, Our dislike of asking for or even accepting offered help, Our unwillingness to change, to admit we may have been wrong,…
Seven Habits of Happy People
They monitor their self-talk; keep it positive, solution oriented. They choose companions in life that challenge them to be their best. They Release. They focus…
The Fluency Illusion
The Fluency Illusion is when we think we know something better than we really do, believing we have mastered a subject when really we have…
Have You Ever Fallen Prey to Motivated Reasoning?
Motivated Reasoning refers to the all too human ability to find “logical” reasons to do what we already want to do v. to find the…
Doing the Duchenne Smile
The non-technical definition Duchenne smile is a genuine smile that comes straight from the heart, reflecting true joy or real happiness i.e., not a forced…
Upgrade Yourself: 3 High Leverage Ways
Taming the Monkey Mind One of the highest leverage points to upgrading yourself is to monitor your mind chatter, your internal self-talk, the constant ongoing…
What Do You Track?
Do you keep track of the wrong things? The things that go wrong? The stuff that didn’t work out? Rejections, mistakes, slights, stumbles, and fumbles?…
Three Kinds of Intelligence and Why You Need All Three
IQ IQ is the most basic kind of intelligence and generally refers to math/verbal skills. While pretty much set at birth and first few years…
Safetyism
The term Safetyism comes from “The Coddling of the American Mind” and speaks to a culture unwilling to make ANY risk tradeoffs whatsoever i.e., not…
HOT THOUGHTS, COOL THOUGHTS
You are programming your mind, day in and day out, whether or not you realize it. The thoughts you CHOOSE to think powerfully affect the…
Acquire the Skillset to Make a Real Difference: Embrace Systems Thinking
A system is any group of things or people that interact or are interrelated or interdependent and thus form a much more complex whole. Systems…
Can You See Souls Instead of Bodies?
What if we could see people’s true inner essence instead of their outer bodies? What if we could see spiritual growth and accomplishments as easily…
Do You Know HOW to Think? 3 Smart Ways, One Dumb Way
Intentional Thinking is making a conscious decision to think about a subject, a situation, a topic usually with the goal of finding a solution or gaining needed…
Never Waste the Pain
Suffering will come into your life; grow from it, don’t waste it. Failure will happen; use it, learn from it, don’t waste it. Disappointments will…
Three Little Habits That Lead to BIG Success
Ask Questions Being curious keeps you in learning mode and is an excellent way to get noticed and to get people to open up to…
Vivre Sans Temps Mort
“Vivre Sans Temps Mort” is French for “to live without wasted time.” The way we choose to spend our time defines who we are, how our…
Alive Time Vs. Dead Time: Where Do You Spend (Invest?) Your Down Time?
We all have free time, down time, in between times. Sometimes they are just brief moments, sometimes they stretch on and on. What we do…
Five Ways to Face Down Fears
Fears are NOT facts… but we can choose to turn our fears into the functional equivalent of facts when we act as if they are…
Keys to Unlocking the Amazing Magic of Affirmations
Affirmations work best via endless (and I do mean endless) repetition. Over and Over and Over again until they are DEEPLY implanted in your unconsciousness.…
Dissecting (and Modifying) a Limiting Belief
Have you ever listed your limiting beliefs? One challenge is that they often reside deep within our minds, masquerading as “facts” or as subtle background…
Our Lives, Our Fortunes, And Our Sacred Honor
This July 4th, as we celebrate the 245th anniversary of the Declaration of Independence, we would do well to pause and reflect on the extraordinary…
Freedom Isn’t Free
This 4th of July As we celebrate our liberty, let us remember and honor the sacrifices others have made. “Freedom Isn’t Free” By Kelly Strong written…
The Subtle Weakness of Smart Groups
Interestingly, in the absence of a well-organized structure, effective processes, policies, and procedures and competent leadership, the IQ of any group, the more so with…
Stay in the Arena
We’ve all experienced, personally or professionally, outcomes we don’t like, decisions we disagree with; feedback that we are uncomfortable with or think unfair or even…
Believe People UP, not Down
Sometimes when you fear the worst in people, you can destroy the best. Our expectations of people powerfully impact their behavior, especially at the margin.…