Three Mind Tricks of the Super Successful
Desire is far, far more powerful than discipline. If it is what you truly want, you will blow through virtually any obstacle to get there.…
Consolidate Your Caring
It is possible to care too much, both from the perspective of 1) being ineffective and of 2) emotional exhaustion. Far better to positively impact…
Sounds Like a First World Problem
The first time I heard the phrase “Sounds Like a First World Problem” it struck me like a sledgehammer. Most of my “worries” were pretty…
Do These Seven Things to Turbo Charge Your Life
Believe in yourself. If you don’t, few will. Don’t rent out space in your head to the opposition, make your internal voice your champion, your…
Be Strong, Make the First Move
Whether it be breaking the ice or being the first to reach out in a relationship (be it friendly, family, or romantic) or being the…
The Ultimate Resource
Believe it or not, you probably have most of all you need to get where you really want to go. You are the Ultimate Resource.…
The Faster You Run, the Behinder You Get: Why Telling Doesn’t Work
We all try to be efficient and offer good advice; when we see a problem, we offer solutions, earnestly trying to help. But what if…
Want to be Effective? A Bigger Hammer Rarely Works
Want to be Effective? A Bigger Hammer Rarely Works Or Why Removing Restraining Forces is Better than Increasing Driving Forces A common problem in persuasion:…
One Secret of Calm People: Embracing JOMO
JOMO is the “Joy of Missing Out” and is the polar opposite of FOMO, the “Fear of Missing Out”. JOMO is intense feeling of delight…
Your Inner Roommate
You have someone living inside your head and it is important to remember it is NOT you. Your inner roommate is a good way to…
Own Your Frequency
Your “Frequency” is just an interesting way of describing your energy levels; the enthusiasm and eagerness with which you approach life, the intensity with which…
Are You a Logic Bully?
A Logic Bully is someone who attempts to overwhelm you with rational arguments while remaining impervious to the insight that your primary motivations are emotions. It…
You Need a PET
No, I’m not talking about a furry four-legged mammal though you may benefit from one of those as well (personally I’ve had dogs most of…
Can Cautionary Words Become Discouraging Words?
Words carry weight and the message we intend to send is not always the message received. Supervisors often try to share “known failure paths” in…
Your Friends are Your Future; How is it Looking?
It has been said that you are the sum total of the 5 people you spend the most time with. While there is much truth…
Self as Subject
When was the last time you studied yourself? As in a topic well worth knowing? In Depth? To avoid squandering the precious gift of life,…
Who Decides What You Say Yes To? You? Or Others?
It is all too easy, in the hurly burly of life, to wake up and find that our life has been hijacked, that we have…
Can You Find It? It’s Often Hidden Well but it’s Golden
Concealed within every failure, buried within every setback, lie clues toward the path forward, lessons to be pondered and treasured. Regrettably it is all too…
What are Your Values? Pick 3, Live Them Fiercely
Below is a list of Values, courtesy of Brene Brown (Dare to Lead and Rising Strong). Under the heading of “If everything is a priority,…
Stacked Goals
How aspirational should your goals be? Some say dream BIG, others say stay reasonable, rational, realistic. Some find challenging targets inspirational, the bigger the better,…
Do You Support? Or Do You Shift?
In a conversation, support is when our response draws out another person, giving them an opportunity to go deeper or open up more. Shift is…
How Do You Stay Sharp?
Covey in Seven Habits of Highly Effective People speaks of the need to “Sharpen the Saw”, to regularly take time to renew, develop and grow…
Self-Made v. Self-Sculpted
I am NOT a self-made man. Anyone with an ounce of humility and self-awareness knows, appreciates, and is deeply grateful for the help they have…
The Incredible Power of Humility
Our pride, Our stubbornness, Our dislike of asking for or even accepting offered help, Our unwillingness to change, to admit we may have been wrong,…
Seven Habits of Happy People
They monitor their self-talk; keep it positive, solution oriented. They choose companions in life that challenge them to be their best. They Release. They focus…
The Fluency Illusion
The Fluency Illusion is when we think we know something better than we really do, believing we have mastered a subject when really we have…