You Need a PET
No, I’m not talking about a furry four-legged mammal though you may benefit from one of those as well (personally I’ve had dogs most of…
Can Cautionary Words Become Discouraging Words?
Words carry weight and the message we intend to send is not always the message received. Supervisors often try to share “known failure paths” in…
Your Friends are Your Future; How is it Looking?
It has been said that you are the sum total of the 5 people you spend the most time with. While there is much truth…
Self as Subject
When was the last time you studied yourself? As in a topic well worth knowing? In Depth? To avoid squandering the precious gift of life,…
Who Decides What You Say Yes To? You? Or Others?
It is all too easy, in the hurly burly of life, to wake up and find that our life has been hijacked, that we have…
Can You Find It? It’s Often Hidden Well but it’s Golden
Concealed within every failure, buried within every setback, lie clues toward the path forward, lessons to be pondered and treasured. Regrettably it is all too…
What are Your Values? Pick 3, Live Them Fiercely
Below is a list of Values, courtesy of Brene Brown (Dare to Lead and Rising Strong). Under the heading of “If everything is a priority,…
Stacked Goals
How aspirational should your goals be? Some say dream BIG, others say stay reasonable, rational, realistic. Some find challenging targets inspirational, the bigger the better,…
Do You Support? Or Do You Shift?
In a conversation, support is when our response draws out another person, giving them an opportunity to go deeper or open up more. Shift is…
How Do You Stay Sharp?
Covey in Seven Habits of Highly Effective People speaks of the need to “Sharpen the Saw”, to regularly take time to renew, develop and grow…
Self-Made v. Self-Sculpted
I am NOT a self-made man. Anyone with an ounce of humility and self-awareness knows, appreciates, and is deeply grateful for the help they have…
The Incredible Power of Humility
Our pride, Our stubbornness, Our dislike of asking for or even accepting offered help, Our unwillingness to change, to admit we may have been wrong,…
Seven Habits of Happy People
They monitor their self-talk; keep it positive, solution oriented. They choose companions in life that challenge them to be their best. They Release. They focus…
The Fluency Illusion
The Fluency Illusion is when we think we know something better than we really do, believing we have mastered a subject when really we have…
Have You Ever Fallen Prey to Motivated Reasoning?
Motivated Reasoning refers to the all too human ability to find “logical” reasons to do what we already want to do v. to find the…
Doing the Duchenne Smile
The non-technical definition Duchenne smile is a genuine smile that comes straight from the heart, reflecting true joy or real happiness i.e., not a forced…
Upgrade Yourself: 3 High Leverage Ways
Taming the Monkey Mind One of the highest leverage points to upgrading yourself is to monitor your mind chatter, your internal self-talk, the constant ongoing…
What Do You Track?
Do you keep track of the wrong things? The things that go wrong? The stuff that didn’t work out? Rejections, mistakes, slights, stumbles, and fumbles?…
Three Kinds of Intelligence and Why You Need All Three
IQ IQ is the most basic kind of intelligence and generally refers to math/verbal skills. While pretty much set at birth and first few years…
Safetyism
The term Safetyism comes from “The Coddling of the American Mind” and speaks to a culture unwilling to make ANY risk tradeoffs whatsoever i.e., not…
HOT THOUGHTS, COOL THOUGHTS
You are programming your mind, day in and day out, whether or not you realize it. The thoughts you CHOOSE to think powerfully affect the…
Acquire the Skillset to Make a Real Difference: Embrace Systems Thinking
A system is any group of things or people that interact or are interrelated or interdependent and thus form a much more complex whole. Systems…
Can You See Souls Instead of Bodies?
What if we could see people’s true inner essence instead of their outer bodies? What if we could see spiritual growth and accomplishments as easily…
Do You Know HOW to Think? 3 Smart Ways, One Dumb Way
Intentional Thinking is making a conscious decision to think about a subject, a situation, a topic usually with the goal of finding a solution or gaining needed…
Never Waste the Pain
Suffering will come into your life; grow from it, don’t waste it. Failure will happen; use it, learn from it, don’t waste it. Disappointments will…
Three Little Habits That Lead to BIG Success
Ask Questions Being curious keeps you in learning mode and is an excellent way to get noticed and to get people to open up to…