make it happen

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The Phrase That De-Powers: “I’ll Try”

Trying isn’t doing. As Yoda said, “No! Try not. Do, or do not. There is no try.” Saying “I’ll try” is a

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Most Ideas About Leadership are Wrong

Leadership is NOT a position; rather leadership is a frame of mind, an attitude. Most think that leadership flows from positional power

role suction

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The Seduction of Role Suction

Role suction refers to the tendency to drop back into familiar roles either from childhood, or previous relationships or jobs. Common roles

past future

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Are You F.P.F.P.?

F.P.F.P. stands for “Fully Prepared for the Past”. There is a saying that “Armies are always ready to fight the last war”

choose emotions

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News Flash: You Don’t Have to ACT the way you FEEL

Feelings are more transitory than we sometimes realize. Emotions are frequently like the rain and the sun; they come and they go.

puppet master

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Who holds your strings?

As in puppet strings; as in who is in control? The only good answer is “I do!” Yet even in the 7th

stress balance

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Three Ways to Make Stress Your Ally

The impact of stress tends to follow an “Inverted U”: Some level is motivational and helpful however past a certain point, some

shiny object syndrome

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Objectivius Shinium Syndromus

Objectivius Shinium Syndromus or “Shiny Object Syndrome” (SOS) is the tendency to let a new idea or concept or venture capture your

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Six Toxic Relationship Beliefs

“A good relationship should not have problems.” “Couples who are in love, who have a good relationship, do not fight.” “If my

Illustration of a woman facing a wall looking at her shadow. Her shadow is her with a superhero cape on.

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Never Compare Your Inside to Others’ Outside

When I was younger, I used to wonder when I’d finally make it to the “Other Side”, that land of milk and

self distance

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Can You Self-Distance?

“Self-distancing” is the ability to stand outside one’s self and gain perspective, to in essence take a psychological “time-out”. It’s your mother’s

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Shunning Inferior Pleasures

I will leave each reader to define for themselves what constitutes “inferior pleasures” for them; principles are simple, application can be complex.