Trust and Confidence are Not Synonyms
Trust is about integrity, confidence is about competence. Too often in the workplace, a supervisor will say “I can’t trust you to handle this yet”…

Have You Talked to Your Future Self Lately?
We tend to put a lot of emphasis on our present self and label ourselves as this or that and in doing so we restrict…

Not to Do List
Distractions abound in life: detours and delays that fritter away our time and energy, beguiling diversions that dissipate our focus. A “Not to Do” list…

Forget “To-Do Lists”, Instead Create a “Success List”
The fatal flaw of “to-do” lists is that they tend to attract the mundane. When was the last time you had something earth-shattering on your…

Self-belief: The Foundation
You gotta believe in you. So much starts there. The world will take you at your word, the world will accept your unconscious self-appraisal as…

Highlight Reel or Bloopers/Worst Moments? What does Your Internal Film Editor Feature?
You spend more time inside your own mind than anywhere else. We continuously interpret events; filtering them through our world view, telling ourselves stories to…

Success is Just a Skillset
Success, however you personally choose to define it, is just a skillset and a very learnable one at that. To be more precise, anyone can…

Just One More! The Power of Persistence and Patient Perseverance
Want success? Want to stand out? Be different/better? Simple! Just do a little bit more than others, just a little bit longer, just try a…

What Are Your Self Stories?
Self-stories are the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves. We humans desperately want things to make sense, so we make up stories to explain the…

Craft Your Self-Concept with Care
Who do you think you are? What do you believe yourself capable of? And where did those beliefs come from? Do they serve you or…

I Have a Kingdom I Must Rule
It all starts with you. You have been given an incredible opportunity; you have been gifted with a life, a mind, and a body, truly…

Working Smart is Harder than Working Hard
Sometimes standing outside ourselves, stepping back and looking dispassionately at our lives, our work, our day-to-day activities can be interestingly difficult. Momentum is powerful, inertia…

How did you vote today?
“Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.” – James Clear/Atomic Habits When you learn to evaluate…

THINKING IS A SKILL…MANY ARE UNSKILLED AND DON’T KNOW IT
Simply because they have thoughts (i.e. words form) in their heads, most folks believe they know how to think. But if you define thinking as…

7 Habits of Highly Ineffective People
Sometimes looking at opposites brings things into greater clarity… Be Reactive: Give away your personal power; hold others responsible for your emotions and reactions. See…

Six Emotional Enemies You Let Live Rent Free In Your Head
1) Fear: Fear is not real; it is an emotion we create in our minds based upon how we choose to interpret reality and predict outcomes (our…

Successful People Accept this Very Simple Phrase
“It may not be your fault but if it’s in your way, it’s your problem.” The greatest point of power lies within you. To believe…

The Double Tap Response: Specific AND Systematic
Successful people approach problems differently than others. They search for solutions at multiple levels; solutions that are both Specific AND Systematic. Yes, they want to…

Smarter beats Harder
To get the most out of your efforts, first work (and live!) smarter, THEN work harder/longer… if that is what it takes to realize the…

Showing Up Clean
At its simplest level, “Showing Up Clean” means having an open mind. Easy words to say but the ability to calmly hear opinions you disagree…

AMY isn’t Your Friend
The amygdala, or AMY for short (from AMYgdala) is an almond-shaped cluster of nuclei located deep within the temporal lobes of your brain. AMY is…

What Emotional Energy seeds are you planting? For as you Sow, so shall you Reap
If we choose to speak disrespectfully of others (and remember we humans are a sensitive bunch); if we elect to gripe or groan about “how…

How are your Refusal Skills?
Refusal skills are communication strategies and pre-rehearsed scripts that help you say no without feeling guilt or shame, particularly when under social or peer pressure…

What is Better than Perfect?
Excellence! Excellencism is a healthy alternative to perfectionism. Excellence is achievable, perfection is not. Perfectionism is control, excellence is flow. Perfectionism is often born of…

The Art of Thinking from the End
It is necessary to have an end in mind for without it we drift rudderless on the sea of life. The meaning of life, our…

You have to Walk the Valley to get to the Mountaintop
Deny me the lessons of the valley and I will not learn the skills I need to traverse the highest mountains. Sometimes you find yourself…