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Your Actions Tell the True Story
Your Actions Tell the True Story
I was struggling with a performance situation once and a therapist told me “Listen to the Behavior.” That was a powerful insight for me in…
April 18, 2024
Who Told You it Would Be Easy?
And if someone ever did, why would you believe them? If it were easy, everyone would do it, so what’s the point? Where is the…
April 16, 2024
Envy….or Inspiration?
When you behold the success of others; what first comes to mind? Are you truly happy for them? Or is there a twinge of resentment?…
April 11, 2024
Practice is a Skill
Or more fully stated: ‘effective practice is a learnable skillset’. It may sound like heresy, but not all practice is good practice or at least…
April 9, 2024
Will is a Skill
For many of us and for much of our lives we have absorbed the concept that willpower, along with its close cousin, self-discipline, is an…
April 4, 2024
Baker’s Dozen
Recently, I was asked: “What is the most valuable piece of advice you would give to anyone new at TCC who is looking to grow…
April 2, 2024
Words That Give Away Your Power
Phrases like “You made me…” or “I have to…” or “I had no choice” give away your power. You always have choices; the choices may…
March 28, 2024
Life is a Roll Call
Roll Call: The reading aloud of a list of names, and subsequent responses, to determine who is present or absent. Every day, the sun rises,…
March 26, 2024
Only the Best Obsess
Obsession has gotten a bad name in some circles but directed and managed, it is the gift of the gods. I think of obsession (and…
March 21, 2024
One-Time Phenomenon
You are a unique combination of DNA that has never happened before and will never happen again. Throw in that every person’s environment is also…
March 19, 2024
Fan the Spark, Guard the Flame
Within each of us lies both goodness and talent of some form, the ability to improve the world and to sculpt ourselves into our best…
March 14, 2024
Our Daily Duty
Every day life begins anew and with it an opportunity for new (more informed?) choices, new (wiser?) decisions, new (better?) paths. Will you go to…
March 12, 2024
Problems are Pathways
Life is a school, and problems are the homework. The penalty for not doing your homework is that the lessons repeat until you do. Everyone…
March 7, 2024
Do Your Job
Whatever your trade, your vocation, whatever your life purpose; make it your mission, make it your calling. In other words, give it your best. For…
March 5, 2024
Elevate Your Identity
Your identity, your self-concept, is who you think you are, the story you tell yourself about yourself as well as the standards you hold yourself…
February 29, 2024
Your Emotions are a Signal… Not a Command
Emotions are just a message about how we are interpreting events and situations in the world around us. They flow out of our expectations and world…
February 27, 2024
Happiness is Not the Goal… Neither is Eliminating Unhappiness!
Happiness is Not the Goal: Happiness can be very elusive when directly pursued. Rather, happiness is best achieved as a byproduct of living a life…
February 22, 2024
Ask What You Can Do
During his inaugural speech on January 20, 1961, John F. Kennedy famously said: “Ask not what your country can do for you- ask what you…
February 20, 2024
Run Straight at the Pain and You will Develop Superpowers
I’m not talking about physical pain so much as I am about emotional/social pain i.e. the ‘pain’ of self-discipline, the ‘pain’ of social rejection, the…
February 15, 2024
Build the Chain
We are so much the product of our habits. So how to form habits that take us where we want to go? And break the…
February 13, 2024
You Are The Project
You are the most important project you will work on your entire life. Think of yourself as a work in progress; approach your life as…
February 8, 2024
Plan Your Future in Advance
Hey, the future is going to come and if you want a better future, you’d best start doing something about it today. The most basic…
February 6, 2024
Could it be Me?
Sometimes we don’t make the progress we would like in life or maybe not as fast as we would like. As we look around for…
February 1, 2024
You are the Creator
I am continually amazed at the extent to which our belief systems create our life. Whether we realize it or not, at some level, we…
January 30, 2024
Beware of Intellectualizing Your Emotions
“Intellectualizing emotions is a defense mechanism that serves as a shield against the overwhelming intensity of feelings. It’s the process of suppressing emotions by overthinking,…
January 25, 2024
You Can Not Lead People if You Need People
But didn’t Barbara Streisand sing ‘People who need people are the luckiest people in the world’? Okay, the title is a deliberate overstatement, designed…
January 23, 2024