The Folly of Self-Doubting
“I don’t believe anyone ever suspects how completely unsure I am of my work and myself and what tortures of self-doubting the doubt of others…
Learned Helplessness, Learned Effectiveness
Learned Helplessness is a mental belief that you are unable change a situation and a resulting unwillingness to continue trying; a sense of powerlessness that…
Thought-Watching
The steady stream of thoughts in our head, our self-talk, is so constant that we lose awareness of their impact. Yet thoughts are things and…
When Positivity Turns Negative
Folks, I’m a huge advocate of a positive mindset. Positivity is NOT a magic wand but most everything in life goes better when you walk…
Train It, Trust It
“Train it, then trust it” is a mantra for athletes about releasing worries in the moment of performance and having faith in the depth of…
How Strong is your Mind Moat?
We all know what a moat is, a protective ditch that surrounds valuable real estate. Moats are usually wide and deep and down here in…
Positivity is NOT a Magic Wand
Anyone who thinks that positive thinking will solve all their problems is delusional. That is not positive thinking, that is wishful thinking. Life is full…
Who is in Control?
What (or who?) runs your life? Where do you think the locus of control lies? Folks divide up into those that believe the locus of…
Caging Your “What If Monkey”
“What If Monkeys” are always asking “What if it doesn’t work?” And while there is certainly a need to evaluate risks and have plans to…
Giving Thanks Daily
Most everyone reading this has won the “birth lottery”; we were born in the developed world. No matter our inherent abilities and talents, being born…
Lest we Forget… Our Blessings are Many
For all our troubles, we live in relative peace, prosperity, and safety. What follows is an excerpt from a GI’s memoir of WWII, about a…
There is no Finish Line
There is no finish line, only another day and another race. Yes, death awaits us all but I am speaking of the finish line in…
Two Beliefs That Make All the Difference
Thoughts are Things/Words Have Power Your-self talk is incredibly powerful; it shapes and molds your self-concept and thus the opinions of others, for the world…
There is This Place
One Day it happens… A morning dawns and you realize that all is good. All is as it should be. Your mind is calm. Your…
Bitter or Better? Which Do You Chose?
Life happens. Good things, bad things. Sometimes we are dealt a good hand, sometimes a bad hand. Most everyone reading this blog has won what…
An Invincible Summer
“In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer.” – Albert Camus, 1913-1960 Nobel Prize in Literature in 1957, @…
The Many Possible Riches of a Poor Memory
The first thing to understand is that far from being a video recorder and a computer data bank, our observations tend to be highly subjective;…
Get Everything You Can… Out of All You’ve Got Now
Too often we focus on our lacks, our weaknesses, on barriers in our way. Doing so flirts with creating a victim identity. If your goal…
What is YOUR EMOTIONAL WAKE?
One of the adages of NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming) is that “you cannot not communicate”. In other words, we are all constantly “on stage”. Like it or…
CTS AND THE CYCLE OF INQUIRY
“There is very little difference between people but that little difference makes a big difference.” – W. Clement Stone One little difference that makes a big…
How to Raise your Happiness Set Point
1. Journal: Awareness is the first step to creating any change. To grow in self-awareness, begin to journal about the “moments of your day”. Write…
10 POWERFUL BELIEFS of Successful People
1) There is always a way. There is a solution to every problem. Know this, believe this, and you will find a way to succeed. Maybe…
Resilience 101: Consciously Building Your Coping Skills Before Life Tests You
In life, it is inevitable that we will have valleys we must walk, times of despair, defeat and discouragement. These journeys will be easier, these…
Back to The Well
To go “Back to The Well” is to go back to the source of something valued, anything that nourishes you, replenishes your strength. When the storm…
The Hard Thing a Leader Does Better Than Most
In hard times, in times of unusual risk or even potential danger, when things are in flux, when uncertainty lies all around, people desperately need…
Living from the Heart
Over a quarter of a century ago, a lovely little book was written carrying a kind and gentle message in parable form. While it was…