What is Your Belief System About Yourself?
What do you believe about yourself? Of what do you think you are capable? Who do you see yourself as? How do you see yourself…
There is This Place
And then it happens… A morning dawns and you realize that all is good. All is as it should be. Your mind is calm. Your…
Big Windshield, Small Rearview Mirror
There is a reason your car has a BIG windshield and a small rearview mirror: You are going forward, not backward! Where you are headed…
Buttons
“Most of us respond like machines when life or people push our buttons. Freedom, wisdom, growth, maturity: they all lie in that space between…
“…does no wrong hereafter.”
In the context of forgiveness and redemption, Abe Lincoln once said, “I think it is enough if the man does no wrong hereafter.” In this internet…
The Demon Within
Simona Halep, #1 ranked in women’s tennis, flamed out in the 1st round of the 2018 US Open in Flushing Meadows, losing in straight sets.…
“I Can’t Have That” v. “I Don’t Want That”
How we choose to see the world powerfully impacts our responses. The way we interpret events, the worldviews we select as our own, all come…
4 Ways You Hold Yourself Back
1. Self-doubt. We tend to judge ourselves by our rough-hewn insides and others by their polished exteriors. You are greater than you know; you have…
Doing it Scared
Doing it scared means doing it before you are fully ready because we are rarely, if ever, fully ready. Doing it scared means pushing your…
Seven Ways to Sabotage Yourself
Sometimes looking at opposites brings things into greater clarity… Be Reactive: Give away your personal power; hold others responsible for your emotions and reactions. See…
Energy Management Trumps Time Management
What you focus on expands, thoughts held in mind attract in kind. Stop managing your time; start managing your focus, your thoughts, and your energy.…
The Phrase That De-Powers: “I’ll Try”
Trying isn’t doing. As Yoda said, “No! Try not. Do, or do not. There is no try.” Saying “I’ll try” is a weak response that does not create confidence; “I’ll try” is almost a pre-excuse for…
News Flash: You Don’t Have to ACT the way you FEEL
Feelings are more transitory than we sometimes realize. Emotions are frequently like the rain and the sun; they come and they go. And just as…
Six Toxic Relationship Beliefs
“A good relationship should not have problems.” “Couples who are in love, who have a good relationship, do not fight.” “If my partner has questions…
Never Compare Your Inside to Others’ Outside
When I was younger, I used to wonder when I’d finally make it to the “Other Side”, that land of milk and honey, that place…
Heart Like a River
Take a handful of salt and pour it into a drinking glass of water and the water becomes bitter, undrinkable. Pour the same handful into…
This is What I Do
How do you motivate yourself? How do you keep yourself going when you are tired, fatigued, falling behind? How do you tap into your best…
To Live Better, Think Better
In many, many ways the Quality of our Lives is directly connected to the Quality of our Thoughts. Fill your mind with fears, doubts, anger,…
Making Your Own Luck
Luck is the intersection of preparation and opportunity. Relentlessly increasing your skill sets (Preparation!) certainly increases the scope of the opportunities you can jump on;…
Preparing to Be Calm
Curbing my “intensity” has long been one of my personal/professionally growth goals and it is SO easy to fall for the “argue for your weakness…
Five Sure Fire Ways to Make Yourself Unhappy
1. Put Your Sense of Self-Worth into the hands of others. Never, ever let others define you or set your goals or priorities. “My Sense…
Best Reason Ever to Embrace Failure
Embrace Failure? Hug it? Love on it? What? Well, given that failure has occurred (and I assure you, it will occur again… and again… and…
Tell Me I’m Not Good Enough. Tell Me I Can’t. Tell Me You Don’t Think I’ve Got What It Takes. Please.
What motivates you? What puts fire in your belly? Fuels you? Stirs your blood? Failure defeats the mediocre but inspires winners to greater effort. The…
Upgrade Your “Attributional Style”
Assume the Best, NOT the Worst! Upgrade Your “Attributional style” Stuff Happens! Phone calls don’t always get answered or promptly returned, things do get forgotten.…
Staying Open
To maintain the civilized dialogue which is essential to a functioning democracy, avoid responding with ad hominem attacks on those whose views differ from yours,…
How We Respond to Adversity Can Create Self-Fulfilling Prophecies
How do you view setbacks? As learning opportunity or as failure? Do you view your capabilities as fixed, somewhat set at birth, essentially carved in…