Brighten Your World, Become a Pronoid
To be a Pronoid is to be the opposite of paranoid: you approach folks and the world as if they are willing to help and…
To Live a Better Life; Avoid These Two All-Too-Common Forms of Self Sabotage
Self-Doubt You must believe in yourself (even if it takes a leap of faith at times!) before others will. Folks tend to sense your self-appraisal…
Choose Heaven
More than we often realize, how we choose to view our world shapes our world. The frame we give events, the way we interpret the…
Life is often Jolie-Laide, Embrace it!
Jolie-Laide is a French term of affection that translates roughly as Pretty-Ugly and is used to describe something that is unconventionally beautiful. No one’s life…
Small Blessings Count Too
Elizabeth Gilbert (‘Eat, Pray, Love’) once said “You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestation of your own blessings.” I take her words to mean…
What Emotional Energy seeds are you planting? For as you Sow, so shall you Reap
If we choose to speak disrespectfully of others (and remember we humans are a sensitive bunch); if we elect to gripe or groan about “how…
The Art of Thinking from the End
It is necessary to have an end in mind for without it we drift rudderless on the sea of life. The meaning of life, our…
Is Your Dog Happier Than You?
Probably! Let’s think about why that might be… Your dog isn’t dragging the past into the present. Your dog lives serenely in the present moment.…
Taking in the Good
There is a theory out there that our brains are hard wired with a negativity bias as a survival technique from ancient times. In a…
You Owe You
What do you owe you? To always be on your own side. To never, ever self-sabotage. To have your self-talk be positive, solution-oriented and act…
Four Traits of Happy People
1. They Choose Their Mindset They remain optimistic, solution-oriented, forward thinkers in all circumstances. They know that no matter what, a positive outlook will achieve…
Do the Words You Use Impact Your Life Expectancy?
If the words you choose to use are consistently positive (including your inner self talk), you most likely have an optimistic view of life and…
The Life Span of an Emotion
According to a Harvard neuroanatomist the life span on an emotion is just 90 seconds: “When a person has a reaction to something in the…
To Be Your Best Self, Don’t Do These 5 Things
Self-criticism: While one should always acknowledge and accept reality, getting down on oneself is a losing path. Failure to Release: Never waste emotional energy on…
The Power of “Yet”
Three statements: I don’t know how. This isn’t working. There isn’t a way. Three statements, oh so slightly, yet so powerfully different: I don’t know…
Change the Locks…NOW!
Most likely it’s far past time to change the locks to the gateway of your mind, to the foyer of your thoughts. In the hurley…
Stressed? Or Blessed?
Stress is not an event but rather a learned reaction to an event. That reaction can be modified or at least mollified. It can be…
9 Ways to Get More Happiness in Your Life
Go Toward Your Goals: Progress and building a sense of forward momentum builds confidence and lifts your spirit. Count Your Blessings: Listing all the things…
Choosing the World You Live In
Believe it or not, in large measure, you are choosing the world you experience. As has been said in many ways and many times, “we…
How to be Miserable… and the Antidote
Want to be miserable? Complain! Constantly! Construct a never-ending litany of things you deplore and fixate on them. Focus on all that is wrong with…
What You Choose to Emphasize Sets the Course of Your Days
What you focus on expands; thoughts held in mind attract in kind and every thought has emotional consequences. When you wallow in the downside, your…
Some folks feel the rain. Others just get wet.
Life. Stuff happens. Some of it beyond bad, other stuff beyond a doubt awesomely wonderful. But most stuff lies in between those extremes and that…
Drama is for the Stage
Personal or relationship drama (i.e. non-literary) refers to a situation blown out of proportion, or one involving unnecessary emotional turbulence or even made-up conflict. Drama occurs for multiple…
Are You Keeping Your Side of the Street Clean?
A common way in which we distract ourselves from doing our own internal work is focus on faults of others or how we’ve been wronged.…
Eight Powerful and Very Learnable Traits of Highly Confident People
They are voracious learners Insatiably curious, confident people continuously seek out new knowledge, ask intelligent, interesting questions, and listen to the answers. As lifelong learners,…
Memorize This
“Every thought, every emotion, every action has energy consequences.” The energy can be positive or negative but it is undeniable that thoughts, emotions, and actions…