Do the Words You Use Impact Your Life Expectancy?
If the words you choose to use are consistently positive (including your inner self talk), you most likely have an optimistic view of life and…
The Life Span of an Emotion
According to a Harvard neuroanatomist the life span on an emotion is just 90 seconds: “When a person has a reaction to something in the…
To Be Your Best Self, Don’t Do These 5 Things
Self-criticism: While one should always acknowledge and accept reality, getting down on oneself is a losing path. Failure to Release: Never waste emotional energy on…
The Power of “Yet”
Three statements: I don’t know how. This isn’t working. There isn’t a way. Three statements, oh so slightly, yet so powerfully different: I don’t know…
Change the Locks…NOW!
Most likely it’s far past time to change the locks to the gateway of your mind, to the foyer of your thoughts. In the hurley…
Stressed? Or Blessed?
Stress is not an event but rather a learned reaction to an event. That reaction can be modified or at least mollified. It can be…
9 Ways to Get More Happiness in Your Life
Go Toward Your Goals: Progress and building a sense of forward momentum builds confidence and lifts your spirit. Count Your Blessings: Listing all the things…
Choosing the World You Live In
Believe it or not, in large measure, you are choosing the world you experience. As has been said in many ways and many times, “we…
How to be Miserable… and the Antidote
Want to be miserable? Complain! Constantly! Construct a never-ending litany of things you deplore and fixate on them. Focus on all that is wrong with…
What You Choose to Emphasize Sets the Course of Your Days
What you focus on expands; thoughts held in mind attract in kind and every thought has emotional consequences. When you wallow in the downside, your…
Some folks feel the rain. Others just get wet.
Life. Stuff happens. Some of it beyond bad, other stuff beyond a doubt awesomely wonderful. But most stuff lies in between those extremes and that…
Drama is for the Stage
Personal or relationship drama (i.e. non-literary) refers to a situation blown out of proportion, or one involving unnecessary emotional turbulence or even made-up conflict. Drama occurs for multiple…
Are You Keeping Your Side of the Street Clean?
A common way in which we distract ourselves from doing our own internal work is focus on faults of others or how we’ve been wronged.…
Eight Powerful and Very Learnable Traits of Highly Confident People
They are voracious learners Insatiably curious, confident people continuously seek out new knowledge, ask intelligent, interesting questions, and listen to the answers. As lifelong learners,…
Memorize This
“Every thought, every emotion, every action has energy consequences.” The energy can be positive or negative but it is undeniable that thoughts, emotions, and actions…
The 6 R’s: Pathway to a New, Better, Happier You
The human mind is an incredible thing! It is estimated that we humans have between 50,000-80,000 thoughts a day. Unfortunately, all too many are automatic,…
Guesthouse Emotions
Never give the Master Bedroom to emotions that belong in the Guest House (at best!). Listen, we all have bad days, moods, fits, impulses to…
Expectancy Effect: Make it Your Ally, Not Your Foe
The “Expectancy Effect” is the phenomenon by which folk’s perceptions and behavior change as a result of their or others prior beliefs i.e. expectations. It…
Seeking Failure
Why would anyone seek failure? Well, absent situations with catastrophic consequences (packing your parachute?), failure often contains valuable feedback, lessons that can form the foundation…
Positive Reappraisal: Far More Than Optimism
While re-framing, optimism, and positivity all are aspects of positive reappraisal, at its heart positive reappraisal is much more. Properly done, positive reappraisal is a…
Does Happiness Take Work?
The short answer is: “Yes, sometimes, even often.” Why? Because our impulses, our intuitions, our social conditioning around what will make us happy are all…
Happiness Takes Work
No matter what our life circumstances, there are things for which to be grateful, to be thankful. Think not? Imagine seriously for a moment all…
The World is a Giant Mirror
The world is a giant mirror, reflecting back the attitudes, energy, and behaviors you choose to broadcast. Don’t like what you see? Change what you…
3 Important Life Hacks We All Say We Know but Few Actually Do
Happiness is a choice: But not always an easy one. It requires that you discipline your mind and decide to walk on the sunny side…
Taking the Kindness Challenge: Can You Become a Kindness Factory?
How do we make “kindness the norm”? One way is by starting a “Kindness Log” where you record acts of kindness you have observed or…
Three High Leverage Psychological Skills Happy People Cultivate
A Love of Learning is one of the highest leverage habits one can adopt for it strengthens and supports all other areas of your life.…