Hold Your Sense of Self Loosely
By “hold your sense of self loosely” I do not mean you are easily swayed by the prevailing winds or that you do not have…
Guesthouse Emotions
Never give the Master Bedroom to emotions that belong in the Guest House (at best!). Listen, we all have bad days, moods, fits, impulses to…
The One Thing You Can’t Teach
Wanting. Wanting is the most difficult thing to teach. Wanting to grow, wanting to be your best, wanting to learn, wanting to improve. That burning…
Three Steps and More on How to Be a Better Human
First, you have to WANT to be better. Really, really, really want to because it’s a process, a long process with no end to the…
Interoceptive Awareness, Intuition, Introspection: Ruminations
Interoceptive awareness, at its most basic level, is an awareness of physical sensations within such as fast heartbeat, heavy breathing, hunger, and fullness. Some expand…
Expectancy Effect: Make it Your Ally, Not Your Foe
The “Expectancy Effect” is the phenomenon by which folk’s perceptions and behavior change as a result of their or others prior beliefs i.e. expectations. It…
The ABC’s of Success
Access your Best Self. This requires taking the time to KNOW yourself, developing both your EQ (emotional intelligence) and wisely exploring a wide range of…
The Results in Your Life Reflect Your Level of Awareness
As your awareness grows, so too does your ability to direct your thoughts, to master your mind, align your emotions with your goals and values…
Positive Reappraisal: Far More Than Optimism
While re-framing, optimism, and positivity all are aspects of positive reappraisal, at its heart positive reappraisal is much more. Properly done, positive reappraisal is a…
Three Steps to Spring Clean Your Brain
Step One: Take Inventory Observe how you spend your time AND your energy. Who and What lifts you? Who and What drains you? What do…
Does Happiness Take Work?
The short answer is: “Yes, sometimes, even often.” Why? Because our impulses, our intuitions, our social conditioning around what will make us happy are all…
A Thought-Provoking Question
A Team Member asked me the other day what they needed to do to get promoted. In the moment, I couldn’t come up with anything…
How Well Do You Know You?
When was the last time you did a “Self-Assessment”? Put yourself through an annual Mental/Spiritual Health exam? It can start with thinking about your thinking:…
Happiness Takes Work
No matter what our life circumstances, there are things for which to be grateful, to be thankful. Think not? Imagine seriously for a moment all…
Two Lies Leaders Should Never Tell Themselves
Lie #1: “I’ve unique stress others don’t so understandable if I…” Even if the first part of the statement is true, the second is definitely…
The First Step
I want to live a good life and I also want to live the good life and while they are definitely related, there is a…
The Best Tool in Your Mental Skills Toolbox… that no one talks about
Being “controlling” has a negative vibe these days and appropriately so in the context of a personal relationship. As a result, the concept of “control”…
The World is a Giant Mirror
The world is a giant mirror, reflecting back the attitudes, energy, and behaviors you choose to broadcast. Don’t like what you see? Change what you…
3 Important Life Hacks We All Say We Know but Few Actually Do
Happiness is a choice: But not always an easy one. It requires that you discipline your mind and decide to walk on the sunny side…
Four Easy Ways to Self-Sabotage
Poison Your Body with Junk Food and Drinks. Love Yourself? Want to live long and healthy? Want more energy? Avoid processed food, red meat, and…
Five Different Things Successful People Do that Others Don’t
#1 Successful people are possibility thinkers. They believe in themselves and in others and their ability to make things happen. They do not accept the…
Question: How to get Traction Starting Out?
Recently, The Collier Companies Team Members submitted over 100 “Questions to the Chair” as part of our upcoming Conference of Champions. Here’s one: Q: What’s…
Self-knowledge: The Ultimate Super-Power
How well do you know yourself? Or perhaps better put, how well do you WANT to know yourself? Someone once defined a successful relationship as…
Think like there is no box
All too often it is our own thinking that hurts us the most. Self-imposed beliefs about what we are capable of, artificial limits about what…
Identity as Destiny
What is your Identity? Not your color or your occupation or your name or your education or your background or your main role in life.…
Sail a Steady Course
Want to go far in life? Sail a steady course. Invest time and energy in developing self-knowledge i.e. find your personal North Star and set…