Who is in Control?
What (or who?) runs your life? Where do you think the locus of control lies? Folks divide up into those that believe the locus of…
Effective Caring
As emotionally evolved humans, we all want a better world so at one level we care about many things, most beyond our ability to impact…
Renew Your Strength Daily
You would never go a day without feeding your body; why would you let a day pass without feeding your mind? Without going to some…
Caging Your “What If Monkey”
“What If Monkeys” are always asking “What if it doesn’t work?” And while there is certainly a need to evaluate risks and have plans to…
Separating Fear Management from Danger Management
“Fear is an emotion induced by perceived danger or threat… Fear in human beings may occur in response to a certain stimulus occurring in the…
Backstage Behaviors
“Back stage” and “front stage” are terms coined by the late (1922-1982) sociologist Erving Goffman in his 1959 book, “The Presentation of Self in Everyday…
It All Starts With A Belief
What is your belief? What is at your core? We all believe in something even if it is that there is nothing. Whatever is the…
Night Guy v. Morning Guy
Night Guy v. Morning Guy by Jerry Seinfield I never get enough sleep. I stay up late at night, ’cause I’m Night Guy. Night Guy…
Coming up Against Our Edge
We all have “edges”, areas we do not go, areas we hold back from, areas we are not comfortable in, areas we shut down in.…
Three Must Do’s
1. Lock Down Your Why To be effective you must be motivated, enthused, and on a mission every day. This requires that your life be…
Two Things Hyper Successful People do Regularly
1. Successful People are Voracious Seekers of Knowledge “It’s hard for me to understand why [getting an MBA] is a better use of time and…
Two Beliefs That Make All the Difference
Thoughts are Things/Words Have Power Your-self talk is incredibly powerful; it shapes and molds your self-concept and thus the opinions of others, for the world…
Can You Take it?
Much energy goes into teaching how to be a good giver of feedback, how to be a good coach. Which is all well and good,…
Immediacy Skill: The Ability to “Say the Thing”
Most of us desire to have the ability to develop and nurture deep personal relationships. This requires that we be able to clearly communicate our…
Re-Programming the Programmer
How well do you know all the programs, the coding you’ve picked up over the years, that run in the background of your mind? Or…
Wounds into Wisdom
We do not so much learn from experience as we learn from evaluated experience i.e. experience that we have reflected upon, analyzed, drawn out all…
Bitter or Better? Which Do You Chose?
Life happens. Good things, bad things. Sometimes we are dealt a good hand, sometimes a bad hand. Most everyone reading this blog has won what…
Identity as Destiny
Who are you? How do you define yourself? What do you think you are capable of? What can you do, what do you think you…
FIVE FEARS AND HOW THEY SILENCE
We often fail to have the difficult conversations we need to have, leaving unspoken important truths. Why? – Fear of Confrontation/Conflict: From the playground onward, we…
Difficult Conversations Don’t Have to Be So Difficult
Ah, difficult conversations. Those conversations we want to avoid, be it our neighbors’ noisy parties or the Team Members who seem to have lost their…
Good Judgment
Good judgment is the ability to combine knowledge and wisdom to make good decisions. Good judgment requires that we accumulate enough knowledge before making decisions,…
Five Steps to Your Best Self
You have GREATNESS within you, waiting for you to fully activate it. You want more, know you are capable of more, interested in being better, growing, learning,…
Claiming Your Golden Shadow
In Jungian psychology, the “shadow” refers to an unconscious aspect of the personality, everything of which a person is not fully conscious i.e. the shadow…
Get Everything You Can… Out of All You’ve Got Now
Too often we focus on our lacks, our weaknesses, on barriers in our way. Doing so flirts with creating a victim identity. If your goal…
What is YOUR EMOTIONAL WAKE?
One of the adages of NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming) is that “you cannot not communicate”. In other words, we are all constantly “on stage”. Like it or…
How to Raise your Happiness Set Point
1. Journal: Awareness is the first step to creating any change. To grow in self-awareness, begin to journal about the “moments of your day”. Write…