Brighten Your World, Become a Pronoid
To be a Pronoid is to be the opposite of paranoid: you approach folks and the world as if they are willing to help and…
Where Does Your Miss Havisham Reside?
Miss Havisham is the central character in Charles Dickens’s Great Expectations who was jilted at the alter and chose to wear her wedding dress for…
Environment v. “In-vironment”
Two ways to look at the world: You are the program, or you are the programmer. Is your fate determined by outside events, by your…
7 Habits of Highly Ineffective People
Sometimes looking at opposites brings things into greater clarity… Be Reactive: Give away your personal power; hold others responsible for your emotions and reactions. See…
Six Emotional Enemies You Let Live Rent Free In Your Head
1) Fear: Fear is not real; it is an emotion we create in our minds based upon how we choose to interpret reality and predict outcomes (our…
Who Is Writing Your Programming?
The short answer is, for most folk, everyone and no one. All too many drift through life like a ship without a rudder (or at…
Bow Down Not to Others’ Gods
Where did your value system come from? Have you ever hauled it out into the light and given a thorough examination? Including the reflexive responses,…
Beyond Desire: The Vital Next Step Few Take
It is not enough to desire something; the wise, the successful go one step further. They ask themselves “Why?”. Why do I want this thing,…
To Live a Better Life; Avoid These Two All-Too-Common Forms of Self Sabotage
Self-Doubt You must believe in yourself (even if it takes a leap of faith at times!) before others will. Folks tend to sense your self-appraisal…
Something to Do in 2023 To Live a Better Life
Live Life on Purpose To be happy, life must have meaning, a direction, a focus… but the meaning of life is not a question we…
I’m a North Star Person; I Sail a Steady Course
Our self-concept, how we see ourselves, is a powerful determinant of our lives. Who we believe we are is a construct we’ve picked up from…
Choose Heaven
More than we often realize, how we choose to view our world shapes our world. The frame we give events, the way we interpret the…
Our Hurts Become Our Fears; Our Fears Become Our Limits
Our hurts often become our fears and then all too frequently our fears become our limits… if we let them, if we live an unaware…
AMY isn’t Your Friend
The amygdala, or AMY for short (from AMYgdala) is an almond-shaped cluster of nuclei located deep within the temporal lobes of your brain. AMY is…
Small Blessings Count Too
Elizabeth Gilbert (‘Eat, Pray, Love’) once said “You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestation of your own blessings.” I take her words to mean…
What Emotional Energy seeds are you planting? For as you Sow, so shall you Reap
If we choose to speak disrespectfully of others (and remember we humans are a sensitive bunch); if we elect to gripe or groan about “how…
Embracing Disconfirming Evidence
Disconfirming evidence is anything that does NOT support our current belief system or reinforce our convictions about who we are or what we are capable…
Taking in the Good
There is a theory out there that our brains are hard wired with a negativity bias as a survival technique from ancient times. In a…
Four Traits of Happy People
1. They Choose Their Mindset They remain optimistic, solution-oriented, forward thinkers in all circumstances. They know that no matter what, a positive outlook will achieve…
Do the Words You Use Impact Your Life Expectancy?
If the words you choose to use are consistently positive (including your inner self talk), you most likely have an optimistic view of life and…
The Life Span of an Emotion
According to a Harvard neuroanatomist the life span on an emotion is just 90 seconds: “When a person has a reaction to something in the…
To Be Your Best Self, Don’t Do These 5 Things
Self-criticism: While one should always acknowledge and accept reality, getting down on oneself is a losing path. Failure to Release: Never waste emotional energy on…
Escaping the Solomon’s Paradox
Solomon was the king of ancient Israel ruling from around 970 to 931 BC. Renowned for his wisdom, his personal life was somewhat messy to…
Change the Locks…NOW!
Most likely it’s far past time to change the locks to the gateway of your mind, to the foyer of your thoughts. In the hurley…
Stressed? Or Blessed?
Stress is not an event but rather a learned reaction to an event. That reaction can be modified or at least mollified. It can be…
OCP=OR
We have a saying at my company: “Our Customer’s Perception is Our Reality.” (OCP=OR) Each one of us sees the world differently and when it…