Do the Words You Use Impact Your Life Expectancy?
If the words you choose to use are consistently positive (including your inner self talk), you most likely have an optimistic view of life and…
The Life Span of an Emotion
According to a Harvard neuroanatomist the life span on an emotion is just 90 seconds: “When a person has a reaction to something in the…
To Be Your Best Self, Don’t Do These 5 Things
Self-criticism: While one should always acknowledge and accept reality, getting down on oneself is a losing path. Failure to Release: Never waste emotional energy on…
Escaping the Solomon’s Paradox
Solomon was the king of ancient Israel ruling from around 970 to 931 BC. Renowned for his wisdom, his personal life was somewhat messy to…
Change the Locks…NOW!
Most likely it’s far past time to change the locks to the gateway of your mind, to the foyer of your thoughts. In the hurley…
Stressed? Or Blessed?
Stress is not an event but rather a learned reaction to an event. That reaction can be modified or at least mollified. It can be…
OCP=OR
We have a saying at my company: “Our Customer’s Perception is Our Reality.” (OCP=OR) Each one of us sees the world differently and when it…
Choosing the World You Live In
Believe it or not, in large measure, you are choosing the world you experience. As has been said in many ways and many times, “we…
How to be Miserable… and the Antidote
Want to be miserable? Complain! Constantly! Construct a never-ending litany of things you deplore and fixate on them. Focus on all that is wrong with…
Are You Keeping Your Side of the Street Clean?
A common way in which we distract ourselves from doing our own internal work is focus on faults of others or how we’ve been wronged.…
How Clean is Your Mirror?
How well do you know you? When you look inside yourself, how close to 20/20 is your vision? Do you see yourself clearly? As others…
Eight Powerful and Very Learnable Traits of Highly Confident People
They are voracious learners Insatiably curious, confident people continuously seek out new knowledge, ask intelligent, interesting questions, and listen to the answers. As lifelong learners,…
Success in 24 Simple Sentences
Surround yourself with things that lift you up, that call to out to the best in you. Believe in yourself; someone must win: Ask “Why…
Memorize This
“Every thought, every emotion, every action has energy consequences.” The energy can be positive or negative but it is undeniable that thoughts, emotions, and actions…
Take Good Notes
If you want to pass a class in school, you take good notes. Makes sense that if you want to learn the lessons of life,…
The 6 R’s: Pathway to a New, Better, Happier You
The human mind is an incredible thing! It is estimated that we humans have between 50,000-80,000 thoughts a day. Unfortunately, all too many are automatic,…
Hold Your Sense of Self Loosely
By “hold your sense of self loosely” I do not mean you are easily swayed by the prevailing winds or that you do not have…
Guesthouse Emotions
Never give the Master Bedroom to emotions that belong in the Guest House (at best!). Listen, we all have bad days, moods, fits, impulses to…
The One Thing You Can’t Teach
Wanting. Wanting is the most difficult thing to teach. Wanting to grow, wanting to be your best, wanting to learn, wanting to improve. That burning…
Three Steps and More on How to Be a Better Human
First, you have to WANT to be better. Really, really, really want to because it’s a process, a long process with no end to the…
Interoceptive Awareness, Intuition, Introspection: Ruminations
Interoceptive awareness, at its most basic level, is an awareness of physical sensations within such as fast heartbeat, heavy breathing, hunger, and fullness. Some expand…
Expectancy Effect: Make it Your Ally, Not Your Foe
The “Expectancy Effect” is the phenomenon by which folk’s perceptions and behavior change as a result of their or others prior beliefs i.e. expectations. It…
The ABC’s of Success
Access your Best Self. This requires taking the time to KNOW yourself, developing both your EQ (emotional intelligence) and wisely exploring a wide range of…
The Results in Your Life Reflect Your Level of Awareness
As your awareness grows, so too does your ability to direct your thoughts, to master your mind, align your emotions with your goals and values…
Positive Reappraisal: Far More Than Optimism
While re-framing, optimism, and positivity all are aspects of positive reappraisal, at its heart positive reappraisal is much more. Properly done, positive reappraisal is a…
Three Steps to Spring Clean Your Brain
Step One: Take Inventory Observe how you spend your time AND your energy. Who and What lifts you? Who and What drains you? What do…