The Provocative Power of Plateaus
Most of my life I’ve lived with mood swings. Bigger, wilder, and scarier in my youth, milder and moderated in my mature years, the benefit…
Your Personal Narrative: Friend or Foe?
Your Personal Narrative is your life story or more precisely, how you choose to interpret your life story: the story you tell yourself about yourself…
The Games People Play: Trapped by Drama No More
To be able to “call” a mind game as it unfolds is the first step to being able to step outside the game and assume…
Epistemological Humility
Epistemic means anything dealing with knowledge. Epistemic humility is: 1) Accepting that there will always be many things about which we are ignorant and that’s natural…
Before Tattoo on the Body, Tattoo in the Mind
Norman Vincent Peale relates a story in his book, ‘Power of the Plus Factor’: While in Hong Kong, I came upon a tattoo studio in…
Beware the Twin Scourges: “Destination Disease” and “Someone Sickness”
Most folks are about as happy as they make up their mind to be. The twin scourges are two ways you can choose to put…
The Label Becomes the Experience
The words we choose to describe a situation powerfully frame our experience of that situation. Words can either sting or sooth. One can be happy…
The Hardest Thing
They say, “fish discover water last”. For example, we become so adapted that things disappear into the background and we lose awareness of them. Learning…
Sidestepping the Arrival Fallacy Trap
The Arrival Fallacy is when we finally achieve a desired goal; something we worked long and hard for and… Somehow, it is not all we…
How Well Do You Know You?
Write down three pivotal experiences in your life. Why were they pivotal? How have they impacted you? If not positive, how could they be re-framed? List…
Your Identity Drives Your Behavior
Who are you? How do you define yourself? How would you describe yourself? Do you like your answers? The words you choose, the associated mental…
The Simple Secret to Self-Control
When we see someone who seems to have it all together, who exhibits good habits and good self-control, we tend to attribute it to good…
Maybe it Wanted to Be Noticed
There is a children’s story, “There’s No Such Thing as a Dragon” about a little boy who finds a dragon on his bed. It’s small…
How to Build a Ship
“If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up the men to gather wood, divide the work and give orders. Instead, teach them…
The Golden Mean
How good do we have to be? Life is so much more than just “feeding the beast”. Simply attempting to “satisfy appetites” is an endless,…
The Belief That Sets the Course of Your Life
Self Belief: I am enough, I can do it, I have (or can find) what it takes. Where there is a will, there is a…
Who Is Your Jailer?
There is a cartoon of a prisoner in a cell; hands on the bars, rattling his cage, frantically, furiously, attempting to break free of his…
The Collier Way
Our Mission Statement: Proudly Making Your Home The Heart of our Business Our work is about love. That may seem overly sentimental for business to…
Three Pivotal Points of Personal Power
Lock Down Your Why To be effective you must be motivated, enthused and on mission every day. This requires that your life be aligned with…
Systems Thinking and Critical Thinking Skills: Two Must Have Abilities to Deal With an Ever Increasingly Complex World
Embrace Systems Thinking: Solve the Problem, Fix/Improve the System that allowed it to happen “All Systems are perfectly aligned to deliver the results they do.” Systems…
Choosing to Find Peace Today
The mind, the ego, the subconscious often have multiple reasons why peace must be just around the corner. Or, why it is difficult/impossible because of…
Who Runs Your Life?
Are you really free if you are bound by habits/desires you fail to muster the willpower to shake? Habits are a fixed way of thinking,…
Seven Deadly Relationship Sins: Elephant Journal
I do not often run material of others, but this is SO good I felt compelled to share; link to source at end. Deceit. Lying and…
Systems and Sisyphus
Do you think in terms of Systems? That many situations involve multiple players making multiple moves over time? Always focus First on Removing Restraining Forces…
Claiming Your Golden Shadow
In Jung’s psychology, the “shadow” refers to an unconscious aspect of the personality, everything of which a person is not fully conscious, i.e. the shadow…
The Stories We Tell Ourselves
We all have a world view, a perspective that we use to explain to ourselves, to make sense of, the reality we experience, to fit…