Learn what? The ‘Big Baby Pivot’!
Ok, I ‘stole’ this concept from ‘How to Talk to Anyone’. Someone is attending a reception where they need to meet folk but knew no one. The author, their mentor and life coach, stood next to them and noticed fleeting eye contact with various individuals that went no farther and a few desultory conversations that also went nowhere. Then the hostess’s child, no more than 4 or 5, came up to them, desiring attention. Our subject’s face broke into a huge welcoming smile, they turned directly toward them and proceeded to make animated conversation, giving the youngster their full consideration.
The coach said that’s it! The next conversation you engage in, give the same warm, welcoming smile, the same enthusiasm, the same undivided attention, the same engagement… And thus the ‘Big Baby Pivot’ was born.
When you do the above, when you give someone the gift of full attention, you are saying ‘I like you, I think you are special, I think you are worthy!’ We all crave attention; we all want to be special.
Closing Quotes:
“The greatest gift you offer yourself or another is the quality of your attention.” – Richard Moss
“A smile is the light in your window that tells others that there is a caring, sharing person inside.” – Denis Waitley, b.1933, ‘The Psychology of Winning’
“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” – Dale Carnegie, ‘How to Win Friends & Influence People’
As always, I share what I most want and need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier
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