As a leader, as a coach, one of the hardest things to do is let people fail. It is so easy to reach out and catch them before they fall. Too easy actually. For unless the consequences are extreme (rare) the greatest lessons are learned when we stumble, fall, and recover all on our own. Once I’m reasonably sure the student has absorbed the needed knowledge intellectually, the next step is to let go, to give them the space, the freedom to gain actual real life experiences to internalize academic knowing into emotional knowledge, into habits, into wisdom.
My mantra then becomes relax, release, and have faith: they will find their way.
“Tell me and I forget. Show me and I remember. Involve me and I learn.” – Proverb
“People are generally better persuaded by the reasons which they have themselves discovered than by those which have come into the mind of others.” – Blaise Pascal, (1623–1662)
“A wise coach knows when to step back and let the student discover their own way for they will remember far better the lesson they teach themselves. Furthermore, they may surprise you with the new path they find.” – NSC
As always, I share what I most want and need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier