1) Renting out space in your head to your opposition: Heck, some of us don’t even charge rent. You’ve GOT to believe in yourself, you HAVE to have confidence that you WILL find a way, come heck or high water you’ll achieve your goal. And if perhaps not this one, then one just as good!
2) Hoping, wanting, expecting it to be easy: Nope, not going happen! Oh, lucky breaks happen and thank the universe and count your blessings when they do but relying upon them is not a workable plan. Duh!
3) Irrational avoidance of risk: Sorry, you’ve just got to put yourself out there sometimes. Sure, think it through, have back up plans, be smart about it but nothing ventured, nothing gained.
4) Dragging yesterday’s negs into today: Oh, my Lord, how we humans love to do this! Ruminate upon the unfairness and indignities of past events… Once the lesson has been learned (and please, avoid cold stove overlearning!), release the pain! The past should be a place of REFERENCE, never of Residence!
5) Holding others responsible: You are the CEO of your life. Even when life is unfair (and it often is), if you want to change the circumstances of your life, YOU are the one best motivated and positioned to do so. Counting on others to save you is not a good idea (but if they do, please pay it back or pay it forward asap. It’s the least you can do).
6) Indulging in “Magical Thinking”: Living disconnected from reality, refusing to face facts, allowing dreams to dominate without the will to do the hard work to manifest, nourishing fantasies.
“Amateurs blame others. Professionals accept responsibility.” – Shane Parrish
“The golden opportunity you are seeking is in yourself. It is not in your environment, it is not in luck or chance or the help of others; It is in yourself alone.” – Orison Swett Marden, 1848-1924
“A person who doubts himself is like a man who would enlist in the ranks of his enemies and bear arms against himself. He makes his failure certain by himself being the first person to be convinced of it.” – Alexandre Dumas, The Three Musketeers
As always, I share what I most want and need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier