We often “create” situations in our lives in ways which we are not fully conscious of, particularly when we attract more of what we DON’T want. We do not go out and say “Hey, I want some more worry, negativity, conflict, stress, tension, anxiety, pressure, and drama in my life.” Yet we choose, we create, our lives by what we direct our attention toward, where we allow our thoughts to dwell, and where we spend our energy.
Like cars on the freeway slowing down to ogle an accident (and running the risk of getting rear-ended thus creating more of the same), problems and issues attract our attention and energy, usually FAR in excess of what is required to observe, learn, evaluate, formulate a solution, implement and move on. We worry, we fret, we stress, and like a child scratching poison ivy, we often end up making it worse.
Solution #1: Cultivate the ability to train your mind to focus on what you do WANT and release what you don’t want, cease sending energy to the negative, and direct all emotions/thoughts to the goal, to moving forward. Few people consciously “choose” negative energy yet all too many unconsciously “create” it, attracting it unknowingly but powerfully into their lives.
Solution #2: Cultivate self-awareness: Journal, monitor your life/your emotions, your responses, track your feelings. Write down what you expect to be or feel different when you achieve a given goal; does reality correspond with your prediction? What can you learn from that? How can you improve your predictive ability about your future self? Both as to what actions will lead to your desired outcome and whether that desired outcome is all you desire? Seek to become a better “emotional weather forecaster” of your personal life. What people, thoughts, situations, goals, tasks, places, events or mental states energize you? Drain you?
Solution #3: Find well springs of inspiration and drink deep frequently. Spiritual texts that call out to the best in you, motivation and personal/professional growth books/CD/courses that appeal to you, that correspond to your goals. Commit to being a Life Long Learner.
“Life is one big road with lots of signs. So when you riding through the ruts, don’t complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy. Don’t bury your thoughts, put your vision to reality. Wake Up and Live!” – Bob Marley, 1945-1981
“Let a person radically alter his thoughts, and he will be astonished at the rapid transformation it will effect in the material conditions of his life.” – Napoleon Hill, 1883-1970
“Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion will one day become a reality.” – Earl Nightingale, 1921-1989
“Be thankful for what you have, you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never ever have enough.” – Oprah Winfrey, b. 1954
“Our subconscious minds cannot tell the difference between reality and an imagined thought or image. What we continually think about eventually will manifest in our lives.” – Robert Collier, 1885-1950, Secret of the Ages/Riches Within Your Reach
As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier