Along the lines of finding new ways of being and behaving, here is some excellent and concise how-to advice on creating new habits, found on LifeHack.org:
18 Simple Ways to Make a Habit
1. Commit to Thirty Days – Three to four weeks is all the time you need to make a habit automatic. If you can make it through the initial conditioning phase, it becomes much easier to sustain. A month is a good block of time to commit to a change since it easily fits in your calendar. I think of discipline and will power as the wood forms that hold the concrete/behavior in place will the concrete sets; the habit forms. If you can summon the discipline, the willpower for a bit in the beginning, after a while the new habit forms and you can cheerfully redirect that energy toward a new project.
2. Make it Daily – Consistency is critical if you want to make a habit stick. If you want to start exercising, go to the gym every day for your first thirty days. Going a couple times a week will make it harder to form the habit. Activities you do once every few days are trickier to lock in as habits.
3. Start Simple – Don’t try to completely change your life in one day. It is easy to get over-motivated and take on too much. If you wanted to study two hours a day, first make the habit to go for thirty minutes and build on that.
4. Remind Yourself, Reward Yourself – Around two weeks into your commitment it can be easy to forget. Place reminders to execute your habit each day or you might miss a few days. If you miss too many times it defeats the purpose of setting a habit to begin with. Reward yourself for even small forward steps. Rome was not built in a day, the long journey begins with a single step. Micro actions add up.
5. Stay Consistent – The more consistent your habit the easier it will be to stick. If you want to start exercising, try going at the same time, to the same place for your thirty days. When cues like time of day, place and circumstances are the same in each case it is easier to stick.
6. Get a Buddy – Find someone who will go along with you and keep you motivated if you feel like quitting.
7. Form a Trigger – A trigger is a ritual you use right before executing your habit. If you wanted to wake up earlier, this could mean waking up in exactly the same way each morning. If you wanted to quit smoking you could practice snapping your fingers each time you felt the urge to pick up a cigarette.
8. Replace Lost Needs – If you are giving up something in your habit, make sure you are adequately replacing any needs you’ve lost. If watching television gave you a way to relax, you could take up yoga or meditation, or bike riding or tennis or roller blading or join a bridge club or a reading circle as a way to replace that same need.
9. Be Imperfect – Don’t expect all your attempts to change habits to be successful immediately. It took me four independent tries before I started exercising regularly. Now I love it. Try your best, but expect/accept a few bumps along the way.
10. Use “But” – A prominent habit changing therapist once told me this great technique for changing bad thought patterns. When you start to think negative thoughts, use the word “but” to interrupt it. “I’m may be no good at this now, but, if I work at it I might get better later.”
11. Remove Temptation/Avoid Triggers – Restructure your environment so it won’t tempt you in the first thirty days. Remove junk food from your house, cancel your cable subscription, throw out the cigarettes so you won’t need to struggle with willpower later.
12. Associate With Positive Role Models – Spend more time with people who model the habits you want to mirror. A recent study found that having an obese friend indicated you were more likely to become fat. You become what you spend time around.
13. Run it as an Experiment – Withhold judgment until after a month has past and use it as an experiment in behavior. Experiments can’t fail, they just have different results so it will give you a different perspective on changing your habit.
14. Swish – A technique from NLP. Visualize yourself performing the bad habit. Next visualize yourself pushing aside the bad habit and performing an alternative. Finally, end that sequence with an image of yourself in a highly positive state. See yourself picking up the cigarette, see yourself putting it down and snapping your fingers, finally visualize yourself running and breathing free. Do it a few times until you automatically go through the pattern before executing the old habit.
15. Write it Down – A piece of paper with a resolution on it isn’t that important. Writing that resolution is. Writing makes your ideas more clear and focuses you on your end result.
16. Know the Benefits – Familiarize yourself thoroughly with the benefits of making a change. Get books that show the benefits of regular exercise. Notice any changes in energy levels after you take on a new eating habits. Imagine getting better grades after improving your study habits.
17. Know the Full Pain, Vividly Visualize the Downside of not Changing – You should also be aware of the consequences of inaction, of delay, of procrastinating on breaking a bad habit, a habit that does not serve you. Exposing yourself to realistic information about the downsides of not making a change will give you added motivation.
18. Do it For Yourself – Don’t worry about all the things you “should” have as habits. Instead tool your habits towards your goals and the things that motivate you. Weak guilt and empty resolutions aren’t enough.
Etymology: Middle English, from Anglo-French, from Latin habitus condition, character, from habēreto have, hold — more at give
Date: 13th century
1. an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary: the habit of looking both ways before crossing the street.
2. customary practice or use: Daily bathing is an American habit.
3. a particular practice, custom, or usage: the habit of shaking hands.
4. a dominant or regular disposition or tendency; prevailing character or quality: She has a habit of looking at the bright side of things.
5. addiction, esp. to narcotics.
6. mental character or disposition: a habit of mind.
7. characteristic bodily or physical condition.
8. the characteristic form, aspect, mode of growth, etc., of an organism: a twining habit.
9. the characteristic crystalline form of a mineral.
10. garb of a particular rank, profession, religious order, etc.: a monk’s habit.
11. the attire worn by a rider of a saddle horse. verb (used with object)
12. to clothe; array.
—Synonyms 2. bent, wont. 3. See custom. 10. dress, costume. 12. dress, garb, attire; deck out.
Dictionary.com. Based on the Random House Unabridged Dictionary, © Random House, Inc. 2006. Encyclopædia Britannica, Inc.
something which a person does usually or regularly
Example: the habit of going for a walk before bed; an irritating habit of interrupting
See also: from force of habit, get (someone) into, out of the habit of, habitual
Webster’s Revised Unabridged Dictionary, © 1996, 1998 MICRA, Inc.
1. Formed or acquired by habit or use. An habitual knowledge of certain rules and maxims. –South.
2. According to habit; established by habit; customary; constant; as, the habitual practice of sin. It is the distinguishing mark of habitual piety to be grateful for the most common and ordinary blessings. –Buckminster.
Syn: Customary; accustomed; usual; common; wonted; ordinary; regular; familiar.
The American Heritage® Dictionary of Idioms by Christine Ammer.
Copyright © 1997 by The Christine Ammer 1992 Trust. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company.