1. Respond without Reacting: When you react, you are giving away your power, letting others or the situation control you. When you create a space between the stimuli and your response, you gain the power to respond effectively. “Nothing gives a person so much advantage over another as to remain always cool and unruffled under all circumstances.” – Thomas Jefferson

2. Stay Solution Oriented: The problem isn’t that there are problems, it’s that we unrealistically expect there won’t be and we fail to properly or fully prepare for the inevitable problems and we get irrationally upset when they do occur.

3. Focus on Responsibility and Correction/Recovery: Never play the Blame Game. Some folks feast on drama, living off the ups and downs of the emotional roller coaster ride it creates but it is a ride to nowhere. Stay calm and move on.

4. Don’t Take the Monkey: If it’s not your problem, don’t let someone else make it your problem. Set your boundaries. Given limited resources (time, energy, finances) every yes is a no. If you choose to say yes, be aware of what to you say no.

5. Surround yourself with Positive People: Some folks are energy vampires, others are shining lights of positive power. Choose your friends and associates carefully; the companions you pick to accompany you along life’s path powerfully impact how your life turns out. The wise farmer does not cast his seed upon rocky ground; you need people in your life who bring out the best in you and in turn who you can support, creating a wonderful upward virtuous cycle of mutual growth and learning.

As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier