First, you have to WANT to be better. Really, really, really want to because it’s a process, a long process with no end to the journey.

Second, step outside yourself, get perspective, grow, grow, grow in self-awareness; find yourself some good social mirrors to give you positive but frank feedback.

Third, be kind, be gentle in word and deed, help others along the way BUT never, ever be an enabler, a co-dependent, a facilitator. The Lord helps those who help themselves, do likewise. You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no.


Live serenely in the present moment, listen with love, hear with your heart, give the gift of full attention. Become the best you can be while always remembering the delicate art of balance. Develop a healthy sense of your own worth and potential, practice self-acceptance and compassion for you cannot give to others what you do not have. Release all thoughts that hurt: the past should be a place of reference, never of residence. Forgive always, forget only as is wise. Anchor your sense of self deep within for that fosters a wellspring of wonderful peace. Be wary of being preachy; rather let your life be your silent sermon. Remember, your actions and words teach your true value system; at the end of each day, reflect back upon what you might have taught.

Closing Quotes:

“Be a good human being, a warm hearted, affectionate person. That is my fundamental belief.” – Dalai Lama

“Start becoming the person you want to be and eventually you’ll look back at the person you were.” – Germany Kent

“A good person can make another person good; goodness in one will elicit goodness in society; other persons will also be good.” – Bhumibol Adulyadej

As always, I share what I most want and need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier