Live Intentionally
Intentionally means by choice, by design, deliberately, on purpose, in contrast to accidentally or without thought. We all have the ability to exercise power over ourselves,…
Live Ready
Opportunity: op·por·tu·ni·ty | \ ˌä-pər-ˈtü-nə-tē , -ˈtyü-\ : A time or set of circumstances that makes it possible to do something. When opportunity knocks, will you be ready?…
Be Wary of Accumulating Random Content
Just as our bodies are what we eat, so our minds are what we allow in, what we pay attention to, what we focus on.…
What Makes You You?
What makes you you? Different from everyone else? What are your unique skills, interests, and talents? Your fears, your hopes? Your strengths, your weaknesses? What…
Catch, Acknowledge, Release and Relax
We humans are capable of amazing feats, we are creative, and we can accomplish astounding things. Yet none of us can change the past; we…
If Your Life is Your Message, What Are You Saying?
What legacy are you creating? Are you kind? Patient? Grateful? Considerate? Our close relationships speak volumes about our true selves; what does your conduct say…
Are Your Stories Blinding You?
We tend to create stories about people and places. These stories come with expectations, scripts, and pre-conceptions based upon our past experiences, both specific to…
Putting the Safety on Your Triggers
Doing as well as we know is an ongoing challenge for us humans. We over-eat, sit when we should move, lose our cool, give in…
Default Mode v. Choice
What do you think about when you think about nothing? What do you do when you have nothing to do? What do you do when…
The Provocative Power of Plateaus
Most of my life I’ve lived with mood swings. Bigger, wilder, and scarier in my youth, milder and moderated in my mature years, the benefit…
Your Personal Narrative: Friend or Foe?
Your Personal Narrative is your life story or more precisely, how you choose to interpret your life story: the story you tell yourself about yourself…
The Games People Play: Trapped by Drama No More
To be able to “call” a mind game as it unfolds is the first step to being able to step outside the game and assume…
Epistemological Humility
Epistemic means anything dealing with knowledge. Epistemic humility is: 1) Accepting that there will always be many things about which we are ignorant and that’s natural…
Before Tattoo on the Body, Tattoo in the Mind
Norman Vincent Peale relates a story in his book, ‘Power of the Plus Factor’: While in Hong Kong, I came upon a tattoo studio in…
Beware the Twin Scourges: “Destination Disease” and “Someone Sickness”
Most folks are about as happy as they make up their mind to be. The twin scourges are two ways you can choose to put…
The Label Becomes the Experience
The words we choose to describe a situation powerfully frame our experience of that situation. Words can either sting or sooth. One can be happy…
The Hardest Thing
They say, “fish discover water last”. For example, we become so adapted that things disappear into the background and we lose awareness of them. Learning…
Sidestepping the Arrival Fallacy Trap
The Arrival Fallacy is when we finally achieve a desired goal; something we worked long and hard for and… Somehow, it is not all we…
How Well Do You Know You?
Write down three pivotal experiences in your life. Why were they pivotal? How have they impacted you? If not positive, how could they be re-framed? List…
Your Identity Drives Your Behavior
Who are you? How do you define yourself? How would you describe yourself? Do you like your answers? The words you choose, the associated mental…
The Simple Secret to Self-Control
When we see someone who seems to have it all together, who exhibits good habits and good self-control, we tend to attribute it to good…
Maybe it Wanted to Be Noticed
There is a children’s story, “There’s No Such Thing as a Dragon” about a little boy who finds a dragon on his bed. It’s small…
How to Build a Ship
“If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up the men to gather wood, divide the work and give orders. Instead, teach them…
The Golden Mean
How good do we have to be? Life is so much more than just “feeding the beast”. Simply attempting to “satisfy appetites” is an endless,…
The Belief That Sets the Course of Your Life
Self Belief: I am enough, I can do it, I have (or can find) what it takes. Where there is a will, there is a…
Who Is Your Jailer?
There is a cartoon of a prisoner in a cell; hands on the bars, rattling his cage, frantically, furiously, attempting to break free of his…