Feelings are more transitory than we sometimes realize. Emotions are frequently like the rain and the sun; they come and they go. And just as we build shelter from the wind and the rain so to can we construct mental sanctuaries from the extremes of our emotions.
The first step is the realization that YOU do have the power! You are NOT your feelings, you have the ability to stand aside and manage your emotions, either to direct them into a safe outlet (Exercise! Punching bag! Private crying jag!) or to simply sit quietly and either re-frame into a positive mode or let them run their course, being careful not to feed them by looping the thought patterns that were their original genesis.
“Showing a lack of self-control is in the same vein granting authority to others: ‘Perhaps I need someone else to control me.” – Criss Jami, Venus in Arms
“I will be calm. I will be mistress of myself.” – Jane Austen, Sense and Sensibility
“Everybody in the world is seeking happiness and there is one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn’t depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions.” – Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People
As always, I share what I most want and need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier