know yourself grow yourself

So often we carry the wounds of our past into our present, polluting and poisoning our contentment and happiness. So how to heal, how to release, how to move forward, creating our best future?

Awareness is always the first step toward crafting a solution: we cannot fix that which we do not comprehend. What is not working for you in your life? Where are you falling short in your aspirations, where are your dreams remaining merely dreams? 

Remember, even if we think the problem is “out there”:

1) We powerfully impact our environment in ways subtle and not so subtle; it is vital to become fully aware of the part we play in the drama of our lives, how we co-author the scripts. 

2) We are not trees, we can move, we can change.

It is one thing to say “awareness”, it is another to create it. Journal, Journal, Journal. Write down your values, write out your Mission Statement, create written goals for all six of your major roles in life (see below), your action plans with target dates, accountability check points. 

THEN observe, observe, observe. Do your best to stand aside, go to the balcony, and see yourself from the point of view of a dispassionate outsider. You will begin to see patterns emerge, ways to move forward. I strongly suggest targeted reading, a lifelong effort to increase your life management skills, your communication ability, and your emotional intelligence. If you have the opportunity, therapy or life coaching can be invaluable. The point of view of a professional with no agenda other than your growth and flourishing can be valuable. It requires courage to expose one’s soul but the benefits can be great.

Reminder! Growth is a PROCESS that takes TIME. Just as one visit to the gym does not make you fit, so one effort at emotional growth will have limited impact.

Closing Quote:

“As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind.  To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.”  ― Henry David Thoreau

Six Major Roles in Life


As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier