Life is complex. While there is much truth in the adage, “feelings buried alive never die” there is also a place for “letting bygones be bygones.” Which is a matter of self-awareness and your predictive intelligence; how skilled you are at forecasting your ability to process events and emotions. Unless something is of meaningful significance and likely to repeat, my default reaction, particularly once the moment of immediate response has passed, is to release.
My personality has strong forward focus and I believe that the past should be a place of reference not residence and I can’t change it anyway. That said, if something is staying with you in a negative or toxic way and your repeated efforts to release are coming to naught, then deal with it, face it squarely. Don’t kid yourself, trying to bury a strong feeling is akin to swallowing a live hand grenade. May have a long fuse, but it’s ticking away.
Closing Quotes:
“What you resist, persists.” – Carl Jung, 1875 -1961
“Pain that is not transformed is transmitted.” – Richard Rohr, b. 1943
“If you don’t deal with your demons, they will deal with you.” – Nikki Sixx, b. 1958
“Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.” – Pema Chödrön, b. 1936
“Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.” – Sigmund Freud, 1856-1939
As always, I share what I most want and need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier
Note: Every effort has been made to properly source any 3rd person material. I am, however, a voracious reader. If anyone finds any unattributed material, pls let me know asap and I will be delighted to give credit where credit is due.
“All intelligent thoughts have already been thought; what is necessary is only to try to think them again.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, 1749-1832
