Literally interpreted, “Je ne sais quoi” is French for “I don’t know what” and refers to that intangible quality that makes something distinctive or attractive i.e. he has a certain je ne sais quoi about him. Call it charisma, charm, presence or personality, it’s nice to have, it feels good to be of interest to others, to be sought out.
It all starts with a solid self-concept, a healthy sense of self-esteem, never “other esteem” i.e. when your self-image, your sense of self is dependent upon the judgement and opinion of others. We constantly radiate our belief systems; we cannot not communicate. When you are happy with yourself, accept yourself, and lovingly nourish yourself, you cannot but help share that with the world and the world will respond with joy and reach out to you. When you carry within you a quiet sense of inner peace, a deep flow refreshing river of cool, calm, collected, centered confidence, the world will be drawn to you.
How do you do all that? Well, I suggest writing out an ideal “self-concept” statement; the you that you would like to see you becoming. Make it rich in vibrant detail, make it appealing to you. Read it frequently, hold it in your mind constantly, and you will be drawn to become that person.
“My sense of self is anchored deep within, from that flows wonderful peace.” – NSC affirmation
“Sometimes the biggest problem is in your head. You’ve got to believe in you.” – Jack Nicklaus
“We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make our world.” – Buddha
As always, I share what I most want/need to learn. – Nathan S. Collier