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Sculpting the Self
I’ve come to believe that one of the most fundamental determinants of a person’s success in life is their Sense of Self, their self-concept. Since…

How is Your Sense of Self?
Your self-concept, your self-confidence, your degree of self-worth, your self-esteem are all closely related. Collectively, they are your “Sense of Self”, and they powerfully impact…

One Sure Way to Sabotage Your Growth
One sure way to sabotage your personal or professional (which are tightly intertwined) growth is to react emotionally to feedback. We are taught from an…

Working Smart is Harder than Working Hard
Sometimes standing outside ourselves, stepping back and looking dispassionately at our lives, our work, our day-to-day activities can be interestingly difficult. Momentum is powerful, inertia…

Worry = Negative Visualization
The mind is a powerful thing, more powerful than we often realize. Our thoughts influence our emotions, our energy levels, and our resilience far more…

E + P = O
E + P = O stands for “Event + Perception = Outcome” and serves as a reminder of how powerfully our world view and our…

What is Your SQ: Spiritual Intelligence?
While I first heard the term “spiritual intelligence” very recently, it was first introduced in 1997 by Danah Zohar in ReWiring the Corporate Brain. Intuitively, I…

Your Greatest Gift to Humanity
What is the greatest gift you can give to the world? Many answers come to mind; the simplest being to do the work to be…

Where Are You Stuck?
“Where am I stuck?” is a terrific question to ask yourself every now and then. No need to wait for a major sticking point or…

How did you vote today?
“Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.” – James Clear/Atomic Habits When you learn to evaluate…

Experience Follows Vision
The way we choose so see the world, what aspects we focus on, powerfully impact our experience of the world. Everyone is a complex mixture…

Finding the Upside
The words we choose to use, the tone we take: they all speak volumes about us, revealing our world view, our perceptions and interpretations of…

Want Better Outcomes? Start Conversations with a Power Lead
What is a “Power Lead”? A power lead is a positive statement that frames what follows in a confident, decisive, affirmative manner: “This is really…

Trusting Loudly
Trusting loudly simply means letting others know that you are depending on them and is a way of expressing appreciation and gratitude. Being open with…

Brighten Your World, Become a Pronoid
To be a Pronoid is to be the opposite of paranoid: you approach folks and the world as if they are willing to help and…

THINKING IS A SKILL…MANY ARE UNSKILLED AND DON’T KNOW IT
Simply because they have thoughts (i.e. words form) in their heads, most folks believe they know how to think. But if you define thinking as…

Where Does Your Miss Havisham Reside?
Miss Havisham is the central character in Charles Dickens’s Great Expectations who was jilted at the alter and chose to wear her wedding dress for…

Environment v. “In-vironment”
Two ways to look at the world: You are the program, or you are the programmer. Is your fate determined by outside events, by your…

7 Habits of Highly Ineffective People
Sometimes looking at opposites brings things into greater clarity… Be Reactive: Give away your personal power; hold others responsible for your emotions and reactions. See…

Six Emotional Enemies You Let Live Rent Free In Your Head
1) Fear: Fear is not real; it is an emotion we create in our minds based upon how we choose to interpret reality and predict outcomes (our…

Who Is Writing Your Programming?
The short answer is, for most folk, everyone and no one. All too many drift through life like a ship without a rudder (or at…

Bow Down Not to Others’ Gods
Where did your value system come from? Have you ever hauled it out into the light and given a thorough examination? Including the reflexive responses,…

Beyond Desire: The Vital Next Step Few Take
It is not enough to desire something; the wise, the successful go one step further. They ask themselves “Why?”. Why do I want this thing,…

Successful People Accept this Very Simple Phrase
“It may not be your fault but if it’s in your way, it’s your problem.” The greatest point of power lies within you. To believe…

To Live a Better Life; Avoid These Two All-Too-Common Forms of Self Sabotage
Self-Doubt You must believe in yourself (even if it takes a leap of faith at times!) before others will. Folks tend to sense your self-appraisal…

Something to Do in 2023 To Live a Better Life
Live Life on Purpose To be happy, life must have meaning, a direction, a focus… but the meaning of life is not a question we…